I’m closet bi, and I would like to come out sooner than later. Problem is, my stepmother and 90% certain my mother are both very conservative and anti-gay/bisexuality. My father is easily influenced by my stepmother. If I was finished with college, I would just come out and hope for the best, but I’m only a sophomore. Do you have any advice?
Come here, handsome greyface, and sit on my lap.
So listen: I think that ‘coming out’ is bullshit. By regular definitions, I am not ‘out’ to my friends or family - But do you know why that is? It’s because they haven’t asked. If they ASKED if I was into girls, I would 100% say:
YUP. HELLZ TO THE YES. AW YEAH. LADIES, AM I RIGHT???
aw yeah ladies
But they haven’t. And frankly, I don’t think it’s my responsibility to make them aware of the fact that I’m bisexual otherwise.
My eyes are green. My hair is brown. Do I think I need to stand on a chair and announce these things? No I do not.
The fact that, as heterosexual/monosexual privilege stands, I should stand up and exclaim my sexual preferences is bullshit, to be quite frank.
NOW. That is just MY PREFERENCE. And that’s what I’m trying to say here! If YOU want to announce things, then you go right the fuck ahead, and I hope you have a bitchin’ party!
YOU DO WHAT YOU WANT.
Okay no seriously.
The point of the matter is that not everyone is comfortable with the whole idea of ‘coming out’ as a big, momentous, public thing.
So what I am saying is that your ‘coming out’ does NOT mean that everyone in your life needs to know about it! You can come out to just close friends, or even just to the people you know in your local LGBQT* group!
This is not an ‘all or nothing’ deal!
You can come out to who you want, when you want, whenever you think is appropriate.
That said, if you do still want to come out to your parents, perhaps it might be helpful to have statistics on your side.
Here are Famous Bisexuals that you can pick according to your parents preferences, and here some of the Bisexual mental health data. This document was approved by The Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Advisory Committee and was approved by the San Francisco Human Rights Commission.
My dear bisexual greyface heart, if I can provide any other information, please ask me. I am literally the most useless person you could have chosen to utilise, but SINCE YOU HAVE I will do my utmost to help you in any way I can!
I admire your determination, and I support you every step of the way.
